After Divorce: The Secret to Second Marriage Success
After going through a divorce, many people pick up the pieces of their broken marriage and take on a second spouse. According to a recent Wall Street Journal article, second marriages that end in divorce last around the same amount of time as first marriages — about eight years.
Second marriages have a reputation for being shorter and more fragile than first marriages. However, this doesn’t seem to be the case based on a report from the Census Bureau called “Marital Events of Americans: 2009.”
When it comes to second marriage and divorce, there are certainly more difficulties starting out. These include children and stepchildren, alimony payments, and baggage from the first marriage. Yet, the marriages themselves don’t seen to be any more doomed from the beginning.
The WSJ article suggests this is because people have taken the time to learn from the mistakes of their first marriage. Whether it was their spouse who wanted the divorce or not, it almost always takes two to break up a marriage. For those embarking on a second marriage, understanding their role in the breakdown of the first marriage can lead to a stronger second marriage free of the behavior that may have caused the divorce in the first place.
Before rushing into a second relationship, psychiatrists suggest it’s important to understand what they are looking for, and what went wrong in the first marriage. Taking the time to deal with and acknowledge mistakes can help people avoid repeating the events of their first marriage.
When going through a divorce, it can seem impossible to think you may one day find yourself at the alter again. If you do, make sure you’ve taken the time to analyze your past relationship and be ready to embark on the new one free from the same problems.
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Michael C. Craven is a well-known divorce attorney in Chicago, CPA and a partner of the law firm Beermann Pritikin Mirabelli Swerdlove LLP located in the Chicago area. He is highly respected among other divorce attorneys, judges and his clients. He also holds a Master of Tax Law Degree (LLM). For more information about his services, contact Michael at mccraven@beermannlaw.com or at Divorce Lawyers Chicago
Its not good for both to break the relation and get divorced.In many cases both are wrong but in some cases some one is wrong so there are different matters of breakup. But marriages are successful with faith.
Thanks for the reply. Whenever possible, I try to recommend talking to a good marriage therapist, clergy or someone trained in marital problems before filing for divorce. Your service http://www.secondmatch.com looks very interesting.